Well done SRK..!!

Today Shahrukh spoke up finally after all that controversy about Pak players in IPL. He in a very bold voice says "I may be coward as I don't speak up for everything but I am not scared of anything or anyone". You need to have guts to say something like that. That too against someone while sitting in their so called den. As we understand clearly what he meant by saying this, we should also appreciate that he took a stand for what he thought was correct and stood there irrespective of being threatened by Shiv Sena. There was not much of support for him from his own Bollywood and the state government. When general people like me are debating on if Hindi is our national language or not, or if there exists anything like national language, when migrants are feeling scared in Mumbai, when existence of state governments doesn't makes any sense as it fails to give its citizens any feeling of comfort and security in that state, a tough stand by a public personality makes some point.

SRK made an interesting point, our  politicians are not sure about their stand towards Pakistan. They say we should not have any sporting relations with Pakistan but still we are playing against them in commonwealth games, in hockey, in everything, but not cricket. Come on, make yourself clear on your stand guys.

If he whose so much was on stake doesn't stepped back, then why can't we take a stand towards togetherness and try to keep aside the differences of caste, religion, colour, region, quotas, language and politics revolving all this, and be fellow citizens of a country India which is full of cultural diversity but still standing tall despite all odds for many year and will continue to be like that. To me it doesn't looks like as an unachievable task. So lets all of us come together for achieving this aim.

हिंदी हैं हम, वतन है.हिन्दुस्तान हमारा....!!

Relationships...The Smart Way..!!

Trust me, over the past few years I’ve learned more about the value of relationships than I could possibly ever imagine. Thank you all to those who encouraged, uplifted, and most importantly listened…truly listened to whatever I uttered.

Conversely, thank you all too those who did the exact opposite of the above. Without you…I would not had been the person I am today.
 

The idea of rebound relationships is so ingrained into the way we think about dating that it just seems natural to look for one after a breakup. There's something to be said for getting back in the saddle, choosing a partner when your judgment is clouded usually does more harm than good overall. If you want to get over your ex fast, there are better ways to do it.

The first step to keeping yourself from doing something you'll regret is to take an honest look at what you're feeling and understand how those feelings can lead you places you'd rather not go. A lot of times we just miss the companionship and look for someone to fill the gap in our schedule and distract us from the fact that our heart's just been broken. In that case, make a point of finding a social time-filler that doesn't involve romance.

The best thing you can do to avoid getting involved with someone who's all wrong for you is stick to your standards. In fact, go ahead and raise them a little just to add a safety buffer. If the person you're thinking about dating is less kind, less intelligent, less anything that you'd normally want, stay away.

When we look for someone to rebound with, we need someone fast. Normally We don't have time to waste looking for someone we really click with, so we tend to latch on to someone we already know and have at least some rapport with. It might be a close friend, a co-worker, even someone who works at the grocery store down the street. If you find yourself falling for someone you've never been the least bit attracted to before, stop and think about what's really going on here.

Instead of filling your time with go-nowhere dates, get out and make some new friends (that's friends,not lovers.There's a difference.) Get involved in something you've always wanted to do but never had time for. Whatever you do, don't sit around pining for your ex or scouring the bookstore shelves for self help books.

Even if your not sobbing into your pillow every night, the end of a relationship will naturally make you feel a little bummed out and low on energy. Take that into account and try not to start any major projects for a few weeks. Instead, treat yourself to some time out to do something you enjoy.

Of course, not every rebound relationship ends up a disaster. If you're lucky, you'll have a fun fling. If you do decide to get involved with someone after a breakup, though, make sure you've taken a little off by yourself and you're not lowering your standards.

Bottom line : While we should try hard prevent broken relationships, rebound dates gone wrong are much easy to avoid

Students opting for suicide..!!

The cases of students killing themselves are on rise in recent past. Mr Kapil Sibbal says, parents are responsible for that. Come on Mr minister, none of the parent would like their kid to kill themselves.

It's never the pressure by the parents that prompts the students to take this extreme step, instead its again the ragging and favoritism at institutes. The medical student of Lucknow killed himself because one of his lecturer at college was intentionally giving him lower grades. The student of Ferguson college Pune killed himself because of ragging by his seniors.

Although ragging is never the same as it used to be few years back but unfortunately still it exists. What is still persistently there  is the torture and favoritism at institutes by the teachers. Being a citizen of this free democratic country, I too had equal rights to go to that city for education, which was never welcomed by those localites. And incidentally the college was forced to accept us as students just because of bondage of rules from Ministry of Education.

I remember one of our  lecturer literally cursing one of our classmates just because he was of some different caste and city. Although our that champ is now in a better position than those favored students, those days were hell for that poor guy.  We too being outsider were always treated differently by few of the institute's staff. While all the favor during sessional and internals was given to the localites, we had to fight for our rightful marks. And those huge difference in internal marks always made the difference in the semester results and hence rankings. There were few instances where we were not even updated of the company's visit for placements. Even while depositing the fees we has to stand in the different queues. The incident of fights between locals and we outsiders was a regular and common thing.

Under these extreme conditions and pressure, some of the students who cannot handle it, opt to take an extreme step like suicide, which is very unfortunate.

Instead of issuing these type of statements, if Mr minister tries to get to the root cause of the problem, it will surely help poor students under stress to evolve as a better human beings.

"ये तो मंदिर हैं इन्हें कब्रगाह न बनाओ, जो आये हैं आपकी पनाह मैं उनको सही राह दिखाओ..!!"

Wah Behanjee Wah..!!

Today's headline "Behanjee recruiting 1000-1500 security personals for protecting the 10 monuments and their surrounding areas".

Why so much of hue and cry? Why can't people see the bigger picture?

In a state crippled with un-employment, if she is building monuments, she is creating job opportunities. If she is recruiting security personals, she is giving those guys an option to live a life of their own as serving state government employees. If those personals will take care of area surrounding the monuments, including the public facilities, what's wrong in that. Don't you remember the pathetic situation of those facilities at other places, smile, you will get a cleaner and properly maintained public facilities next time you will visit any place like that. Which chief minister of UP in past has thought something innovative like this for the people of their state

So the benefits you have are

• Employment for people
• Better maintained parks
• Hence income for the state from tourism

Ya I can see that you will say there are problems too, like

• Wastage of tax payer's money
• Why not security for general people?

Let me clarify on these points too. There is already a wastage of  you money, who is caring for that. You still have got potholes, contaminated water supply, poor law and order situation etc etc. So why don't accept happily what you are getting out of that? And as far as security for general people is there, wait ..she has started with parks and monuments, your turn will also come.

Till the time you get better options, why don't take what you are getting as of now. So smile, this is the best government available which you can buy :)

60th anniversary of Indian constitution..!!

I got up yesterday on 26th January with lots of cough and cold inside me (although its irrelevant here, but still I would like to mention it)  and fog and cold outside.

There were so many pieces of news floating around...One MLC from Bihar beating a girl who complained against her gunner's misbehaving...Rana's father in law claiming him to be innocent...people disliking new version of Mile sur mera tumhara....President saluting the flag past parade at Rajpath....our guests daring the cold and attending the republic day parade...the common man missing from that same parade in the name of security...Bill gates spotted table dancing and being reported as a level-40 dance party wizard....people all of sudden singing patriotic songs, which they will surely forget very next day..... taxi drivers in Mumbai getting notice to learn Marathi...and incidentally Mr Ambani opposing this move...SRK saying that whatever happened at IPL auctions was bad, but he can't help....Branjelina split....naxalites calling of a bandh in Orrisa on republic day....people not happy with the prohibition on alcohol coz they were missing that something in their hangouts...ministries clarifying and defending the mistake they did in a paper advertisement a day ago boldly..most of the office goers happy with this mid week break...people queued up in front of super markets to save their money by purchasing anything and everything that was being offered at discounted rates.... knowing that both Barkha and SRK are sad to see all the controversy around the padma awards....and so on...

Still we all celebrated republic day..!!