Sunday, October 11, 2009

Are you happy....??

Are you happy with who, what, or where you are today? Are you having fun? Are you enjoying your career? Are you excited about your future? Are you living your life to the fullest? If the answer is no, then I ask "Why not?"

Most of us are searching for something, or sometime in the future when we will finally be happy. We tell ourselves that if we can only get to "that place," then our lives will be perfect. What we miss when we go through life with this perspective is the joy of today, and all the wonderful things that it brings.

So what will it take for you to be happy? Will it be the bigger house, the new car, getting married, getting divorced, becoming pregnant, getting a new job, moving to a new home, etc.? When will you stop running and enjoy what you have today? The search for happiness is internal and impossible to obtain from outside things. Sure, they may make you smile initially, but the emptiness will not go away.

So, how can you be happy today? Follow these easy steps:

1. Accept That You Deserve To Be Happy.

If you don't think that you deserve to be happy, then no wonder you're not. The messages you give yourself determine what direction your life will take. If you are telling yourself that you are unworthy or don't deserve happiness, then how can you expect to be happy?

2. Accept Who You Are.

Being happy today is accepting who you are; the good, the bad and the ugly. It's knowing that you are doing the best you can do, and being content with that. I'm not saying to ignore what you'd like to improve in your life, but if you only see what's missing, you lose out on "loving" what's great about you.

3. Be Comfortable Where You Are.

Being happy today means being comfortable where you are in the present, not where you would like to be in the future. It's about being in awe for the opportunity to learn something new each day. You don't know what your life will bring tomorrow, so you might as well enjoy where you are today.

4. Appreciate Your Life.

Being happy today means being grateful for your life. Whether it's being grateful for having your health, a job, a place to live, food everyday, or a family that loves you. If you knew that you were going to die in 90 days, would you do things differently? Guess what? You are going to die one day, and you don't know if you even have 90 days. Gratitude, not blame will give you happiness and freedom.

5. Ask For Help.

Being happy means not keeping your problems to yourself. It also means that you ask for support when you need it, and let others contribute to your life. Most of us don't ask for help because we don't want to burden the people around us. But, if someone asked you for assistance, wouldn't you lend a helping hand? Then why wouldn't you let others do the same for you?

6. Do Something Nice For Someone Else.

Being happy today is doing something nice for someone else. This could be as simple as holding the door for the person behind you, or as big as volunteering your time to your favorite charity. Your problems become smaller when you are not always thinking about them. When you take the focus off yourself, it is easier to see how great your life really is.

7. Do Something That Will Move You Forward.

Being happy is taking steps that will move you forward. Movement keeps you from feeling like a victim. When you're unhappy, formulating a plan puts you in a different place and helps change your perspective. It also put the power back in your hands!

8. Forget the past

“One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory“

You won’t be happy if you carry the burden of the past. Did you make mistakes? Did you have terrible experiences? Whatever they are, you should let them go. There’s nothing you can do about the past, so you’d better let them go and focus your energy on the present.

So, what is it going to take to have you be happy today? How much more of your life do you want to live waiting for "someday" to bring you the happiness you crave? It's up to you to create your own happiness. It's up to you to create a life filled with joy rather than sorrow. Why not choose a life filled with happiness today?

Monday, October 05, 2009

Why we really need him now..??

Today there was an article by Chetan Bhagat (He doesn't needs any introduction) in "Sunday Times". He wanted Mr M.K. Gandhi back to India. He says we cannot forget him, as if any one has got an option for doing so. Today he is everywhere, on the currency, in every city crossings, on the walls of every Govt. buildings and in speech of every politician.

Politicians talk about Mr Gandhi, wear his choice of clothes and swear by him. It is not because they really love him, its just because they have to do all this if they want themselves in the political scenario of India. I can't see them following what he preached. If they ever even tried to follow, the problem of bad roads, lack of electricity, lack of education, unemployment would cease to exist in our country by now. We really need more and more like Taroor who are very clear and speeak out their mind. At least not those who all of sudden get out of their SUVs for a night out as some dalit's house, not because they really want to be there but because it was as per party diktat.

Even today's young political leaders are calling youth to join them, but are they serious about this? Those who are joining are Jindals and Mittlas. If they really want someone who can make a difference why don't they go ahead and recruit people by advertising, recruit people who are speacialist in their fields. People who know how it feels to travel everyday in pathetic public transport to office in even NCR region.

Anyone who had read “Men Who Killed Gandhi” by Manohar Malgaonkar would surely agree that we don't need him back. The book tries not to take a side at all – which is a good thing provided the fact that neither of them (Mr. Gandhi or Mr. Godse) was justified. If Mr. Gandhi was not justified to go on hunger strike for releasing 55 crores to Pakistan while India was at war with them, Mr. Godse was equally not justified to kill somebody (and that somebody in this case was Mahatma Gandhi). The book states that both Mr. Godse and Mr. Apte were pledged to the cause of an independent and undivided India. And they held Mr. Gandhi liable for India’s division. It also points out that how Mr. Gandhi was all together alienated from the realities of divided India and public sentiments during last days of his life – and paid with his life for that.

I can never deny the fact, that today I am write this freely is just because of what efforts Mr. Gandhi and many others had put in for our freedom but I do insist that we don't need him back. He had done his bit and now its time for us to do ours. We need to think before doing anything, voting, spitting on roads, taking/giving bribes etc. For how long we will be waiting for someone to come and do good for us, we have to do it ourselves.

I had been following Chetan's tweets for past few days and I am really surprised, why all of sudden all praises for Mr. Gandhi? I don't think his views were same when he used to be five point someone during his grad days. Why all of sudden this major change, is this also a publicity stunt for your book? You really don't need to do this yourself...!!

Saturday, October 03, 2009

Wake up Raj....!!

Here comes Mr. Raj Thakre again...!!

Who disappeared during Mumbai Terrorist attacks, he is back protesting KJO when his actors call Raj's "Mumbai" "Bombay" in movie "Wake up Sid". KJO promptly went ahead and apologised to Raj. CM says he should had lodged a complain against Raj, as if they will really protect everyone from Raj. What a Joke of Democracy. A single man becoming powerful than world's largest democracy. Raj and his party are concerned about Mumbai's name being defamed, but they don't care for how Indian democracy is getting defamed.

He calls people from UP and Bihar "Bhaiya" but is furious if anyone calls localites as "Ghaati", why these double standards? He is concerned that Big B is doing branding for UP but living in Mumbai. He fails to see that Big B never tell residents from other states to leave UP. Why does he fails to understand that if every north Indian leaves Maharashtra, what will happen to the revenue generated by the state when they purchase clothes, movie tickets, cars and houses? They are also contributing to the growth of Maharashtra.

He is blaming media for ignoring of what happened with UP and Bihar guys in Assam, but forgets that those who attacked them were named extremist and terrorists but he is still happily roaming around spitting venom against everyone as a free citizen of India, he should be thankful to Indian democracy for all this freedom.

What happened to "Freedom of expression" and "Freedom to go and work anywhere in India" rights provided to each and every India by our constitution. Are we standing at a junction where anyone can surpass the Government and constitution and do whatever he wants to fellow citizens?

Wake up Raj, its not only your state and country..its our country and we are spread across all states.

Thursday, October 01, 2009

हम पंछी उनमुक्त गगन के...!!

One of my favorites..truly inspirational...!!

हम पंछी उन्मुक्त गगन के

पिंजरबद्ध न गा पाऍंगे

कनक-तीलियों से टकराकर

पुलकित पंख टूट जाऍंगे ।

हम बहता जल पीनेवाले

मर जाऍंगे भूखे-प्यासे

कहीं भली है कटुक निबोरी

कनक-कटोरी की मैदा से ।

स्वर्ण-श्रृंखला के बंधन में

अपनी गति, उड़ान सब भूले

बस सपनों में देख रहे हैं

तरू की फुनगी पर के झूले ।

ऐसे थे अरमान कि उड़ते

नील गगन की सीमा पाने

लाल किरण-सी चोंच खोल

चुगते तारक-अनार के दाने ।

होती सीमाहीन क्षितिज से

इन पंखों की होड़ा-होड़ी

या तो क्षितिज मिलन बन जाता

या तनती सॉंसों की डोरी ।

नीड़ न दो, चाहे टहनी का

आश्रय छिन्न-भिन्न कर डालो

लेकिन पंख दिए हैं तो

आकुल उड़ान में विघ्न न डालो ।

-शिवमंगल सिंह सुमन